10/18/99 Custody hearing
10/23/99 Mickey and Sonja visited 10 - Noon
10/30/99 Mickey visited alone 10 - Noon
11/06/99 Mickey visited alone 10 - Noon
11/09/99 Mickey called at 5 p.m. - wanted to see Ben
the next afternoon. He said he would call back for an
answer in a little while. Mickey told me that he had
quit his job in Kenduskeag and was now digging
bloodworms in Lamoine. I called Cathy and learned that
she had car trouble AND plans with her daughter. Then
(thinking I would save Mickey the cost of a toll call,
I called him at Sonja's where I had been calling him
right along, and learned that he was no longer living
with Sonja. The person said he guessed Mickey and
Sonja just need some time apart. Mickey had said
nothing about this when we talked.
11/12/99 Mickey called to see if the visit scheduled
for the next day could be changed from 10 - Noon to a
little later because he had to dig bloodworms during
low tide. I said ok, and it was arranged that the
visit would be from 2 - 4. Cathy brought Ben to my
house as usual for the visit. Mickey called at 1:15 or
so and said he was at his mother's house and was just
leaving to come to my house. He called again at 2:45
to say he was in East Corinth and it was raining. His
wipers were not working and he could not continue and
would not make it for his visit. He asked if Ben would
still be here Sunday a.m. and I told him that he
wouldn't be as I was taking him home at 4. We did set
up a visit for Monday, the 15th from 4 - 6.
11/15/99 I got out of work at 3 p.m. and went directly
to Dover to meet Cathy at the babysitter's house and
pick up Ben for his visit with Mickey. We got back to
my house at 3:45. There was a message from Mickey on
my answering machine. He said he had gotten stopped by
the police on Sunday and he didn't have a driver's
license. He said he couldn't make it for the visit.
He said he didn't know what was going to happen, so no
visit was set up. Will wait for him to call and will
at that time set up a visit for two weeks after he
calls. NOTE: He should have called Sunday to let me
know this so we wouldn't have to do all the running
around with Ben for nothing. I heard through the
grapevine that Mickey was in Picataquis County Jail
AGAIN. Mickey had NOT mentioned this when we talked.
11/16/99 Tonight I called Sonja. She told me that
Mickey had moved out at her request. She told me she
could not take his lying any longer. He is now living
with his mother, Kathy Harmon, in Carmel. I have not
heard from Mickey since he left the message Monday.
12/04/99 Ben's birthday. Mickey had visit with Ben.
I had made a cake and got ice cream. Also here was the
couple from Ellsworth that Mickey is living with and
their three sons, and Kathy and Fred Harmon. Mickey and
friends left after two hours. Kathy and Fred stayed
longer to visit with Ben. Mickey's sisters did not
come though I had said they were welcome. Mickey goes
to court Monday, 12/6.
12/8/99 I called Mickey's mother Kathy to see how
things went in court. Learned that it was postponed
until 1/3/2000.
12/23/99 Kathy Harmon called to see if I would be home
the following day so she could drop off a Christmas
gift for Ben. Told her I would be here.
12/24/99 Kathy and Fred dropped off gift for Ben.
Asked if I had heard from Mickey....I had not. Later
same day, Mickey called to see if he could see Ben
Christmas day and give him his present. Things were
too hectic for arrangements to be made. When he called
back for an answer a couple of hours later (I had not
been able to reach Cathy), he agreed timing was not
good.
12/26/99 Mickey called to see if he could come see Ben
some night this week. Would call 11/27/99 between 3
and 6 p.m. for answer. Mickey has bronchitis. I
called Cathy, who said she wanted to have visits
arranged two weeks in advance as ordered by the court.
12/27/99 Mickey did not call today as he said he
would. He also has my e-mail address but did not
e-mail me either.
01/03/00 Mickey called today to see if he can see Ben
this weekend (I wasn't home so he spoke with my
Husband, Jim). I had already called Cathy to see if
Ben could spend the weekend with me, but Heather said
Cathy wasn't home.
01/04/00 Got hold of Cathy tonight to see if Ben can
spend the weekend with me. Cat asked if Mickey had
called. I told her he had called yesterday. Ben is
coming to my house the the weekend, but I was
instructed to remind Mickey AGAIN that all visits MUST
be set up TWO WEEKS IN ADVANCE. He is not to know that
Ben is spending the weekend with me.
01/08/00 Ben did not spend the weekend with me as I
have been sick with influenza since last Wednesday
night.
01/10/00 Mickey went to court yesterday. I called his
mother, Kathy Harmon tonight to see what happened. She
wasn't home, so I talked with her husband Fred. He
said some of the charges were dropped and he goes back
to court sometime in February on the other charges.
01/16/00 Mickey called this morning to set up a visit
with Ben in two weeks. I said ok. Later I went down
to Cathy's to visit and see about the visit. She is
planning a birthday party for Tyler on the day I had
set up the visit. Now I have to see if I can reach
Mickey somehow to tell him to come Sunday instead of
Saturday. Will call his mother tonight to leave
message with her..............I called Kathy (not home)
and talked with Fred. He said he thinks Mickey is
somewhere in Dover for a few days. I gave him the
message to give to Mickey (he can visit Sunday, Jan.
23). Ben will be at my house until 4 p.m.
01/17/00 Received e-mail from Mickey today. It read
as follows:
Hi sandy. This is mikey, you are a wonderful
grandmother. I am very much looking forward to seeing
Ben. Thnak you and have a very very nice day.
I replied as follows: Hi Mickey,
I don't know if you have talked wih your mother or Fred
yet, but there has been a change in the visit. Cat is
having a birthday party for Tyler that Saturday.
Therefore, the visit will be on Sunday, January
23. Ben will be here until 4 p.m. when I will take him
home. You can visit anytime before then on that day.
Sandy
01/23/00 Mickey visited with Ben for two hours today. His brother, Josh, came in to see Ben for a few minutes when he came to pick up Mickey.
01/30/00 Mickey visited with Ben today for two hours. Other family members came with him: Kathy and Fred; Jada, her husband and daughter; another of Mickey's sisters (can't think of her name right now). Visit set up for each weekend now unless Mickey goes to jail again when he goes to court 2/14/00.
02/02/00 I e-mailed Mickey today to see if he can visit Ben Saturday instead of Sunday this coming weekend because Sunday is Heather's birthday. No reply yet. I also sent the message to his aunt. She replied saying that Mick had gone into Bangor, but she would give him the message when he returned.
02/06/00 Kathy Harmon called this morning around 8:00. Mickey had just called her to tell her that he would not be able to make the visit today. He had not received my message about the visit being changed from today to yesterday....said he had been out on a fishing boat and just got in. Kathy said she would have Mickey e-mail me in a day or two. His next visit is Sunday, 02/13 (the day before he goes back to court).
02/13/00 Cathy brought Ben to my house at 11:45 for his visit with Mickey. Although Mickey e-mailed me yesterday to say he would be here, he did NOT show up. He did not call or e-mail me to let me know he would not be here. This is the second weekend in a row that Ben was here and Mickey was not. I am geting tired of tying up my weekends for nothing!! Weekends that are perfect for cross-country skiing with my husband.
02/27/00 Mickey called me collect today from jail. He goes to court tomorrow and was wondering if Ben was here by any chance. He isn't. I gave Mick my mailing address as he requested it in case he goes to jail for a couple of years. He said he is going to try and see if he can get bail and check himself into Acadia to get his act together. Knowing Micky, it won't help...he has tried it before.
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